Andrew Klavan hits the nail on the head.
Sometimes someone takes the words right out your mouth and then knows how to organize them in a brilliant essay. Andrew Klavan has done just that (even though he had know idea). From my new favorite read...
http://www.city-journal.org/html/17_2_diarist.html
Excerpts:
"It’s manners, not morals, that lay the borderlines of our behavior."
"Still, mannerly as we would rather be, truth-telling continues to be both compelling and ultimately satisfying. There is, after all, something greater than courtesy. “Firmness in the right,” Lincoln called it, “as God gives us to see the right.” We find ourselves at a precarious moment in an endeavor of great importance: namely, the preservation of Western rationalism and liberty. It does mankind no good to allow so magnificent an enterprise to slip away merely for fear of saying the wrong thing."